- Warm collaborative style
- Relationship focus
- Practical coping skills
About John
John Alilovich is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) practicing in California. He has worked in community mental health and private practice for about 40 years. John has long experience supporting people through relationship and addiction challenges and a broad range of life stresses.
He spent more than fifteen years working with county mental health services focused on substance addiction, domestic violence, parenting, marriage and relationship concerns, and LGBTQ families. He built a private practice alongside that work and has continued seeing a wide range of clients over decades. This gives him a mix of public-system and private-practice perspectives.
John’s style is warm and personal. He describes clients as the experts on their own lives and aims to get to know each person as an individual. Together he and the client set goals and practical steps that fit the client’s life.
He uses a range of approaches, including cognitive behavioral therapy, emotion-focused work, mindfulness, and internal family systems ideas. John looks at which approach or mix of approaches matches a person’s needs rather than pushing a single method.
Many people come to him for relationship strain, intimacy questions, trauma and abuse, grief, mood concerns, anxiety, addiction, parenting challenges, and issues tied to identity and life transitions. He also lists men's wellbeing among his areas of focus and can bring that perspective into sessions when it fits the person’s goals.
John aims to treat people with sensitivity, respect, and warmth while working collaboratively on realistic goals and solutions.
How therapy approaches translate to online work
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) helps people notice thoughts and feelings without being ruled by them, then take actions that match their values. It can be useful for anxiety, depression, or life changes when someone wants clearer direction for choices. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) focuses on identifying unhelpful thinking and testing new behaviors to reduce distress and build coping skills; it often helps with anxiety, mood, sleep, and stress. Attachment-Based Therapy looks at patterns in close relationships and how early bonds shape current reactions; it can help with intimacy issues, grief, abandonment concerns, and relationship repair.Choosing the right approach is part of the work. John will talk with each person about their goals and preferences and together decide which methods or combination of methods to try. That collaborative planning can change as the work progresses.
If you are considering online therapy, confirm the session formats before booking since the biography does not list them. Online options can make scheduling easier and help therapy fit around work, parenting, or travel. They can also allow shorter check-ins or sessions without video when that suits a person better. Licensed professionals adapt ACT, CBT, and attachment-focused work to video or phone formats so tools and homework can still be used between sessions.
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Experience
40+ years
Credentials
California
Languages
English
Frequently asked questions
What concerns does John commonly address?
He works with relationship problems, trauma and abuse, intimacy issues, depression, anxiety, addictions, grief, parenting stress, and related life changes such as career or identity questions.
How would you describe his therapeutic style?
He uses a warm, personal approach and treats clients as experts on their own lives. Sessions focus on setting shared goals and practical steps that fit daily life.
What kind of background does he bring to sessions?
John has about 40 years of clinical experience, including more than fifteen years working in county mental health with children and families and many years in private practice.
What are his credentials and where does he practice?
He is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist - LMFT - practicing in California.
Which languages are supported for sessions?
Sessions are offered in English, and he accepts international clients.
What session formats are available?
Please confirm current session options before booking since formats were not specified in the biography.
How is cost handled for sessions?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability; sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time.
How do I begin working with him?
Click the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule according to therapist availability.