- Stress and anxiety
- Relationship help
- Parenting support
About Allan
Allan Herem is a California-based licensed marriage and family therapist (LMFT) with 23 years of clinical experience. He helps people manage stress, anxiety, low self-esteem, depression, and relationship struggles. He also focuses on parenting and fatherhood challenges and the emotional fallout from separation or infidelity.
Allan listens for patterns that come from family of origin, attachment, and past losses. He works with clients to identify how those patterns affect current relationships and self-worth. Sessions often center on clearer communication, setting boundaries, and repairing trust where it has been damaged.
His approach is practical and straightforward. He offers compassionate guidance and tools people can try between sessions. Conversations are aimed at reducing shame and guilt while increasing skills to cope with intense feelings and impulsivity.
He pays special attention to caregiver stress and the strain of parenting. For fathers, he explores role expectations, identity, and ways to balance responsibility and self-care. He also supports people dealing with abandonment, commitment worries, or ongoing family conflict.
Allan describes work that honors each person's beliefs and life story. He helps clients move from feeling stuck to making small, concrete changes. To begin, the site asks users to complete a short matching questionnaire and then schedule according to therapist availability.
Approaches that guide online sessions
Allan uses evidence-based therapeutic techniques to help people understand and change patterns that cause distress. One approach focuses on attachment and family of origin patterns, helping clients see how early relationships shape present-day reactions and relationship habits. This work can help with abandonment fears, commitment anxiety, and communication problems.Another common thread in his work is skills-based coaching for emotion regulation and behavior change. This involves learning practical tools for coping with anxiety, impulsivity, guilt, and shame, then practicing them between sessions to build new habits.
Choosing the right approach is a collaborative process. The therapist will discuss goals, preferences, and life context and then tailor methods that fit each person's needs. Adjustments happen over time as progress and obstacles become clearer.
The biography does not specify which session formats are offered, so confirm current options before booking. Online therapy can make it easier to fit sessions into a busy life, reduce travel time, and allow shorter check-ins when needed. Licensed professionals can adapt exercises and communication skills to work well in remote sessions, helping clients integrate changes into daily routines.
Areas of expertise
Primary focus
Additional focus areas
Experience
23+ years
Credentials
California
Languages
English
Frequently asked questions
What kinds of problems does Allan help with?
He works with stress, anxiety, depression, relationship and parenting concerns. Additional focuses include attachment, abandonment, infidelity, and family of origin issues.
How would you describe his therapeutic style?
Allan uses a compassionate, practical style that emphasizes clearer communication and concrete coping skills. Sessions aim to reduce shame and build more effective behaviors between meetings.
What is his clinical background?
Allan has 23 years of experience as a clinician helping people navigate personal growth and relationship difficulties. He draws on long-term practice with adults facing life transitions.
What are his credentials and where is he based?
He holds the LMFT credential, licensed in California. His practice is located in California.
Which languages are supported during sessions?
Sessions are offered in English. International clients are not currently accepted.
What session formats are available?
The original biography does not list specific session formats. Please confirm current session options before booking.
How does payment and cost work?
Cost varies with location and therapist availability and sessions use a subscription that can be canceled at any time.
How do I start working with him?
Select the Start Therapy button, complete a short matching questionnaire, and schedule according to therapist availability.